Today is a special day for Myles and Nigel. For the both of them, it is the end of 'me' and in its place, the beginning of 'us'. More than that, it is the start of a new life filled with love, honesty and fidelity.
Nigel is my partner's son. Truly, a hunk of a man, with good looks and a lot of matter between the ears, I know he will make not only a responsible but a fine husband and father as well.
Myles, is a pretty girl who blossomed as a woman when she met Nigel. We were briefly a witness to that. She worked abroad for three years (and still will be) and her marriage to Nigel today is a culmination of that blossoming process.
We have all come to love and care for Myles very much. Not only because she is smart, intelligent, but most of all because she is caring and very thoughtful. I am a hundred percent sure she'd make a good wife and mother.
With distance and all, I guess when Myles leave to continue her work abroad, both their continued nurturing for each other will see them through till old age.
By the way, I found this advice from the web which will work for almost everyone. I could not have said it any better.
"Marriages don't work on their own. They only work if the people in them are willing to work-- with each other. Marriage is about putting sincere effort into bringing happiness and comfort to your partner. It is about investing time and energy into meeting your spouse's needs, whether those needs seem reasonable or are the same as your own or not. Marriage is about feeling responsible for the well-being of your mate.
Marriage is NOT about having life as fun and easy as possible and making sure your spouse doesn't get in the way of that. Marriage requires you to let go of some old things to make room for new.
Marriage is about compromising and changing when the relationship requires it. It's about expressing to your partner what you need from them without expecting them to be perfect or to be able to read your mind. It's about listening and letting go of childish stubbornness, because sometimes marriage requires you to swallow your pride and say you're sorry".
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
- Friedrich Nietzsche
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.
BTW, I will try to upload some photos of the couple during courtship days. I have some stashed away in my 'brick and mortar' photo albums :-)
Cheers for Myles and NIgel!!!